Marriage is the social institution under which a man and woman establish their will to live together as husband and wife by a legal commitment. The ceremony in which such a union takes place is called wedding. And wherever you go, wedding ceremonies tend to vary according to the culture and belief of the society in which it takes place.
In a direct contrast to other wedding ceremonies in our society, in the Hedareb the actual wedding day is not decided during betrothal. Wedding days are decided once the necessary requirements like the age of the couple, the presents that are to be given to the bride and the economic conditions for holding the ceremony are filled. And betrothals are commenced at the request of the groom’s family. They are the ones who are also responsible for setting the date in which the wedding ceremony is going to take place.
Once the wedding day is set preparations are began by the families of the groom and the bride. Both families will take it upon themselves to oversee the preparations including but not limited to food, drink and the reception of the wedding ceremony. Those preparations are also in part handled by the relatives and close neighbors of the families.
Once the ceremony starts, the groom will take a bracelet, called “teket”, from his mother’s hand and put it on his and he also puts a necklace made of beads, called “somit”, and shave his hair while the bride to be washes her hair, the bride braids her hair once she is married and reaches in the house of her in-laws.
On the eve of the wedding the groom with his friends and few elders accompanied by three ladies will go to the bride’s house. On the way to the bride’s house they will sing, dance and his friends and relatives will held a camel race. Once they reached at the house of the bride, they will get great hospitality from the family of the bride and the groom rest on the bed prepared only for him. On this day the two sheep or goats that were brought by the groom’s family are slaughtered and the festivities commences. After that both families will eat the food prepared and drink coffee. The youth invited for the wedding will play a traditional game known as “Biboch” on the wedding reception.
On the wedding day families of the bride and the groom and other invited guests will enter the reception place and a Sheik will be present to accompany the religious ceremonies. After that the families of the groom will present the clothes that they give to the bride and the bride will wear the clothes from her in-laws and the jewelry and appear in the reception hall. After that the father of the bride will express his gratitude and the knot will be tied and with that family of the groom and presents them with 30-50 goats as a dowry. All those animals are the joint properties of the groom and the bride, the father of the groom also presents payment known as “shedaq”, roughly translated into price of the bride. In some families the dowry reaches up to 40 goats and 4 cattle.
After this ritual is ended the groom’s family takes the bride to their house and the bride’s family gives her a present called “sete” to the families of the groom. The bride ride on a camel back with one of the ladies that came to the bride’s house with the male families of the groom.